Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. Proverbs 4:1
I am always a little shocked by how much my children actually hear what I say. It is even scarier to realize how much they watch what I do. Several years ago I had picked our boys up from school and was driving home when from the back seat I heard my oldest say the word stupid. I quickly turned around and said, “Son we do not say stupid.” Later that same evening the boys and I ventured into the back yard to play in our sandbox. As I dragged off the cover, designed to keep the neighbors cat from pooping in our sand, I discovered a nasty deposit. I scooped out the poop and said under my breath, “stupid cat”. My son came running over from about 15 feet away, tapped me on the shoulder and said, “Dad, we do not say stupid!” Ouch, the painful humility of realizing my own hypocrisy. I was reminded of how powerfully the words and actions of a father impact the lives of their children.
I strongly believe that the messages fathers send, stated and unstated, have a profound impact on how their sons (and daughters) come to view the world, God, themselves, and others. “Stuff Dads Say” is a short and encouraging read covering the top ten most important messages all children need to hear from their fathers. I believe these messages should be sent over and over again throughout a child’s life. They are paying attention and will gain understanding. The question is, understanding of what? This challenging E-book will be available Free for the next three days only. Browse the list below for a sneak peek.
The most important messages every child needs to hear from his father:
- No kicking in the face
- Where does it hurt?
- Come on, I need your help
- Let’s go on an adventure
- Oh, Let’s try that again
- Let’s go help mom
- How are you going to handle that?
- I’m sorry
- What do you think about that?
- How do you ask nicely?
I have caught myself saying each one of these phrases. Before having kids I never imagined that they would become part of my parenting vocabulary. I am excited to share with you how they have shaped my journey as a father and how I believe they continue to shape the way my sons view the world.